Are there any gay people that aren't liberal democrats?

Yes, there are a ton of people who are both part of the GLBT and fiscally conservative communities. If you see yourself as a social liberal and fiscal conservative I would look towards the liberty movement in the US. A good starting place would be the Cato Institute, which has numerous gay scholars and directors. The "conservative" title unfortunately has a very negative connotation today and seems to be linked to politicians who are socially conservative and hypocritical when it comes to their fiscal conservativeness. And it sounds like you lean libertarian, why not just research more and see if you can get comfortable with calling yourself a non politically aligned libertarian?